From Journal, Nov. 4, 2000, Saturday

People get too angry at each other. They do not allow other people to be themselves. They want to bend and shape each other to their way of living and doing things. Tolerance is a lost virtue. Patience has been forsaken too. It does not take that much to just wait, to listen, to give way. Staying calm and thinking of the contributions the other person makes in our life can keep a person from demanding too much, and from being ungrateful. So many good relationships have gone bad just because both people have not learned to have gratitude for the things the other person does. Instead, they are ruined by a focus on the perceived shortcomings. I am working hard to improve in this respect as well. I often feel hurt and angry when Baum arrives so late on Saturday due to playing bridge all day, and forget to focus on the fact that he is coming to see me, bringing me flowers, taking me to nice places, wanting to be with me each weekend. He was more affectionate this weekend, despite arriving late (after 6 pm) Saturday. He came close behind me and kissed me on the back of my neck, and hugged me in bed, and patted my bottom tenderly as we lay in bed together. WE sat up late during the night watching television and talking. We went bicycling, for thirteen miles, and had coffee mid point in the ride. We planted the many tulip, iris, anenome, and hyacinth bulbs I had bought. I placed them where I wanted them and he dug the holes, and covered them. Then we watered them all and heated the barbecue grill. He cooked delicious steaks while I set my hair inpreparation to go to a movie. The rollers are those kind that have velcro type grip, and stay in withut pins. My hair dries very fast, and was ready by the time the steak was done. We also had grilled corn on the cob and bell peppers and tomatoes. It was wonderful. We took on on a fast drive to the moview to see The Legend of Bagger Vance, which was a good film. It was inspiring.